Learning makes us taller....

I was listening to talk radio yesterday in the car and this man was being interviewed about his recent struggle with drugs and alcohol. He was explaining how he conquered his habits. As I was listening he said something that made absolute sense. He basically said when you are confronted with the type of person that is hard to get along with, or is always being negative in everything you or they do you have to remember that they speak to themselves that way also. So instead of putting yourself at their level remind yourself that you can be decisive and choose to go the opposite way. I smiled while listening to this man because I understood but I never thought of it like that before. What I mean to say is that when someone is really angry all the time I feel sorry for them because it's like being confined with no hope of escape. I know from experience. However I never thought of thinking to feel pity for them because ( a lot of the time I am busy feeling pity for myself but self absorption is a whole other blog) not only are they speaking to you in a derogative manner but that is how they speak to themselves as well. Misery loves company and they do not want to be alone. Remember that. :) Do not be angry with people, be compassionate. I am not asking you to be their friend but the more you understand things and others the more you begin to see that you become patient. This I am also speaking of from experience.
I have never paid attention before but I realize that when I am looking upon myself as being any thing less than what I think I should be I actually start to tell myself in my head that I am less. No one is telling me that I am, I am telling myself that I am. Therefore I begin to create a negative charge within and it reaches out to others in my mannerisms and my dialect. That makes perfect sense.
I think we all need to own up to our own as well because that is how experience makes you wise. Just being alive and getting old does not make you wise. I learned that to be a fable at an early age.
If you are reading this and in your head you are thinking, "I don't know Frankie their are those out there that I would rather just kick their ass then be patient with them" or if you take this next statement personally then I would think that maybe you yourself are negative and need to own up to that fact. I know I am sometimes and I think its making me old and might even be rotting me on the inside. I am doing and trying everything I can to avoid that. I have a theory on that also for those who are interested. I need to juggle it around in my brain before I put it on paper. Or should I say screen. :) Okay...